Mercury Opposite Mars
Your thinking is tempered in arguments with others: people often challenge you, and the task is to hear your opponent and stand up for yourself without a war.
In the Birth Chart
Mind and drive stand on opposite sides for you, and you often meet them through other people. It seems that those around you argue, press, or interrupt, and you have to defend yourself. In fact this is a mirror of your own combativeness. This aspect makes you a strong debater and teaches you to see another point of view. When you stop taking every disagreement as an attack, arguments turn into a way of finding better solutions together.
Relationships
A couple may have frequent verbal duels. You are drawn to people with a strong character and opinions of their own, but you can lock horns with them easily. It is important to agree on the rules of argument: no insults, and each person gets to finish. Then the relationship becomes lively rather than exhausting.
Work and Money
You show well in negotiations, in legal and competitive situations, and in handling client objections. Partnerships can be stormy. It is useful to put agreements in writing in advance, so you do not argue about who said what.
Strengths
- The ability to take a hit in an argument and defend your position
- The capacity to see the other side's arguments
- Strong negotiating skills
Pitfalls
- Taking any disagreement as an attack
- Attracting combative people and drawn-out disputes
- Wanting to have the last word
How to Work With It
Before answering in an argument, briefly restate the other person's position: it lowers the heat and shows you heard them. Choose which battles are worth your strength. Use your toughness in work where an opponent is natural: negotiation, advocacy. In personal relationships, agree on pauses if a conversation heats up.
In the Sky: What It Means for Everyone
Opinions collide head-on: in these days it is easy to end up arguing with a colleague, partner, or stranger, and it matters to hear the other person and not only yourself. The atmosphere is one of tense debate. Everyone is sure they are right, and conversations easily turn into confrontation. It shows most sharply in couples and business partnerships. This time suits openly naming disagreements and finding a compromise, if both sides are ready to listen. If not, hurt feelings and needless nerves remain. Felt for a few days around the exact date.
How It Shows Up
- Arguments with partners and loved ones over plans and decisions
- Negotiations are hard-edged, with each side pushing
- People react more sharply to criticism and remarks
- A misunderstanding in a message grows into a conflict
Good to Do
- Hear your opponent out before answering
- Put agreements in writing
- State your boundaries calmly and clearly
Better to Avoid
- Proving you are right at any cost
- Settling serious questions in the heat of emotion